Dread and Fear

How have you dealt with and/or combated Fear and Anxiety in your life?

Lots of prayer
and just facing it all.

I used to be afraid of heights,
but when I went to Israel we went to Masada (ruins of Herods castle on the top of a mountain)
And we had to go there with this skilift kind of thing.
So they prayed for me
And I just faced it all,
and after that I was like ''if I can handle this, I can do it all''
and I haven't been afraid of heights eversince,

although that doesn't mean I'm now just dancing on edges of cliffs etc :p

Not too much. I did as a child becasue Daddy was an abusive drunk, but since I became an adult with control over my own life and destiny, I choose to live it anxiety and fear free.

I think I remember struggling a little in my 20s, but feeling very in control by age 30.

PeacethroughX wrote:Not too much. I did as a child becasue Daddy was an abusive drunk, but since I became an adult with control over my own life and destiny, I choose to live it anxiety and fear free.

I think I remember struggling a little in my 20s, but feeling very in control by age 30.

That's good. I will be 30 shortly and I hope I can start stressing less by then too... I've been dealing with it better though lately, which is good.

Stress never happened till I was in my thirties (35 now can't seem to figure out how to change my profile lol). A wife, 3 kids and mortgages take their toll.

What I need to do, but don't as well as I should is give it to God. I have a control problem tho so that is always a struggle for me.

Fear has really never been a problem. Anxiety, now thats another story. Right now I am handling it with help from God, my husband, and my online friends. In that order.


Oh and a dose of Effexor every night.

In the past, I have dealt with these emotions through prayer and the Scripture, particularly Phil.4:4-6.

Nowadays, I use a lot of alcohol. Not recommended by any means, but effective in it's own way.

Tall Tyrion wrote:In the past, I have dealt with these emotions through prayer and the Scripture, particularly Phil.4:4-6.

Nowadays, I use a lot of alcohol. Not recommended by any means, but effective in it's own way.

I believe there is actually scriptural backing for that too.. Serious. Some of the scriptures of Solomon.

The first one that came to my mind was from King Lemuel's mother:

4 It is not for kings, O Lemuel, It is not for kings to drink wine, Or for rulers to desire strong drink,
5 For they will drink and forget what is decreed, And pervert the rights of all the afflicted.
6 Give strong drink to him who is perishing, And wine to him whose life is bitter.
7 Let him drink and forget his poverty And remember his trouble no more.
Prov.31:4-7

It applies, but I still think wisdom is needed.

Reading my response made me very sad. How could I have gone downhill so far since just a month ago. My depression seems to be worsening, I am angry at everyone all the time, Most of the stress and anxiety comes from situations in my life, not internal problems, perhaps why the effexor isnt working.

My family has been through many serious problems, my daughters seizure disorders and accompanying brain damage, my oldest daugter had a child born and died while she was in japan, and never told us till a couple of years later. my son married his true love, to find out she was severely bi polar, not very faithful, and she died in a car wreck a year ago, leaving him with unresolved issues.

These are just a few of the stressors I've had in my life, and they didnt get me down. maybe its cause I was younger? or healthier? I dont know, but having a great deal of trouble dealing with little issues now, mostly finance. I want so badly to leave my job, where i was discrimated agains because of an illness i suffer from, but I need the health insurance. This is making me so despondant it is difficult to get up in the morning and face another day.

my friends online are still giving me strength, my family seems to be failing me, with a great lack of understanding, and I dont really know where God is right now.




Sorry to unload, i know you all dont know me that well, but it just wanted to come out.

SisterSandy wrote:Reading my response made me very sad. How could I have gone downhill so far since just a month ago. My depression seems to be worsening, I am angry at everyone all the time, Most of the stress and anxiety comes from situations in my life, not internal problems, perhaps why the effexor isnt working.

My family has been through many serious problems, my daughters seizure disorders and accompanying brain damage, my oldest daugter had a child born and died while she was in japan, and never told us till a couple of years later. my son married his true love, to find out she was severely bi polar, not very faithful, and she died in a car wreck a year ago, leaving him with unresolved issues.

These are just a few of the stressors I've had in my life, and they didnt get me down. maybe its cause I was younger? or healthier? I dont know, but having a great deal of trouble dealing with little issues now, mostly finance. I want so badly to leave my job, where i was discrimated agains because of an illness i suffer from, but I need the health insurance. This is making me so despondant it is difficult to get up in the morning and face another day.

my friends online are still giving me strength, my family seems to be failing me, with a great lack of understanding, and I dont really know where God is right now.




Sorry to unload, i know you all dont know me that well, but it just wanted to come ouy.

That sucks sandy. I'm actually in the same boat too, to a certain extent. The only way i can stay sane is by taking everything on day at a time.. and one breath at a time. I've found if i think too much in teh future.. depression often follows.. due to worries.

Sorry to hear about your troubles, Sandy. I don't have any easy answers for you, but I will pray.

Thanks to you both, and thanks for having a place I could vent without hurting my husbands feelings. he does try to understand, but he just doesn't. and he has a habit of saying exactly the wrong thing at the wrong time.

Today was a better day, and I do try to take it one day at a time. The day I was so upset, I had just talked to one of the sisters, who has been ill for a while, I told her I hoped she would find something to help her feel better, she looked me in the eye and said "I dont want to feel better, I want it to kill me" Now this woman is up and around, not bedridden or anything, and although she must have some pain, she doesnt seem all that effected by her illness. She just is tired of her life.

I think this kind of shook me up. and made me very emotionall, started crying driving home, and couldnt get over it.

Working with one of the teens today, and going in the walk in freezer to straighten the mess people have gotten it into made me feel better. Teens alway bring me cheer it seems.

I'm afraid of heights and of some people/churches.

exhead wrote:I'm afraid of some people/churches.

Me too.